Melissa Wilkerson reviews and complaints

My neighbors have taken nosy to a new level - with an "i" - Noisy. Since the past three weeks, my neighbors have been bringing guests to their place. I don’t object to that, but what I really object to is their invasion of public space. For instance, their door is hitting ours (the towers where we live have small lobbies) and they have done nothing about it. We asked them to fit their door entrance in such a way that it opens the other way around without hitting our door, but it seems they don’t want to do that. We have even given written complaints, but it seems they are determined to break our door. Moreover, they have fitted their door video camera in such a way that it faces our house, so that they could conveniently spy on us. We even approached the police, but nothing has been done about it. Moreover, our neighbors bring in loud guests in the middle of the night and they stand right outside the open door of our neighbors and make such noise to show they are excited while talking. It is actually a legal violation – there should be no disturbance to anyone after 10 p.m. here in Mumbai. Furthermore, my neighbors have fitted a huge Ganesha idol with lighting for the same to show that they are affluent; whereas they have done so on a public wall (on the exterior of their house). Hey! We have paid for our house, but we have not violated the use of public property. The only place, where we have stuck an extremely small Ganesha is just above our door headway. My neighbors are however so competitive, they have fitted a huge Ganesha idol on a stand. I really hate my neighbors and would keep complaining to the police unless and until they stop misbehaving with us. They are just crossing their limits with us.

Are my neighbors nosy? How do I find out? Whenever I get parcels for which the payment option is Cash on Delivery, my neighbors (at Vikhroli, Mumbai, India) come out and ask the courier person where they are from, how they can order the same stuff, etc. Once they event went to the extent of calling the courier person inside their house after I had shut the door and asked for my order history and that even they would like to order stuff for themselves. I found out they did this, when I was going toward the tower elevator and saw and heard them talking about my orders to the courier person and was extremely shocked. This is clearly an invasion of my privacy for me, even if my mother does not agree, saying that they are only asking for themselves. Furthermore, they once wanted to "see" the dryer supplied by our tower office, whereas the same item is supplied to all the flats in our towers. I did not allow her to step inside my house for 2 valid reasons: Firstly, I do not want people snooping around my house. Secondly, if the manufacturer of the dryer has given us a defective piece, then he will not dispute with us, stating that we opened the package and that he will not replace it. My neighbor then asked me whether she can "measure" our door video phone. They are also going to get the exact same piece. Then why "measure" ours? I do not understand what the deal is with my neighbors. She gets angry and the next day on, we get letters in my name, but with our flat number canceled and theirs written on my letters till I wrote an online review. My neighbors never even invited us for their housewarming party, but they sure know where to go for "help" or "information" when they need them - to our door. What kind of neighbors are these? Are they dangerous? One night, I was about to sleep. There was a lot of noise outside our house. I switched on the door camera to see who is there at 11:00 p.m. - an unearthly hour. Our neighbor, who is dressed like a terrorist in white cloth, covering her face comes out and peeps into our video camera. It was ridiculous. We do not know what the deal with these people really is. Then yesterday, another neighbor asks us about why the head of my family is not staying here for very long, to which my father replied that he has to take care of his sick sister and is staying away for sometime. How did they come to know that the head of the family is not around? Do they keep spying on us all the time? We do not even know what our neighbors are like, what their lifestyle is, etc. We do not even bother to find out, because we are not nosy and we do not like nosy people. How did this happen then? Questions cloaked as concerns - one of the signs mentioned in articles that give signs of how to detect a nosy neighbor that is spying on us. How do we solve this problem? Do we approach the police? Why do I get the feeling that I am being watched over all the time? Furthermore, my father told me yesterday when I asked him who had come inquiring about why he is not around. My dad says it's not nice to ask that and that we have to be "sociable." I mean what are the limits to being sociable? Isn't this question from my other neighbor invasive? I do not understand how to tackle this and am at my wits ends. Trust me, I am. Not only are my neighbors nosy, but difficult to handle. They know I do not like their snooping on me, but they continue to ignore me and do it like I am crazy or something. Even my parents defend my neighbors saying we have to be sociable or we cannot live here and stuff like that. It just drives me nuts.

Do you think my neighbors are competitive? If yes, then I have all the more reason to hate my neighbors. Today, I saw a packet strewn across the third floor stairway of our towers and it had absolutely no name or address on it, but it was from the same company from where I order my stuff. I was irritated that they are trying their level best to annoy me. I was also annoyed that they had kept the area unclean. It seems they have no sense of cleanliness or any civic sense. I have never seen anyone as unkempt as this.

While I would agree that this person does not sound like the type of neighbor I would want to have, my husband and I had to laugh at the story...Our names are Craig and Melissa Wilkerson too. However, we only have one child and do not go to church 3 times a week :-)